Leaving tomorrow for the arrangements. I hate this long drive. I was glad to find out that my work has bereavement pay and it includes 3 days and pay. It does help to have a company working for you. And some understanding coworkers.
I always want to tell you to "just leave" (and maybe even have a few times, over the last six or eight years). You need to pull free from the nest at some point. (Or else you don't. I'm easy.) But I always cringe upon reading of your home life snippets.
My condolences. I lost one grandpa in elementary school, and the other one was dead before I was born. I always say I'm probably lucky that my parents died young in one sense, now it seems all my peers parents' are passing into the Universal existence.
My prayers are with you and I am sending positive energy your way.
Michael F. Nyiri, poet, philosopher, fool
My condolences. I know you hate the long drive at a time like this. (((hug))) I would hate it too.
I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts
((hugs)) and prayers... So sorry to hear of your loss.
I am so sorry! Please take care of yourself and don't spread yourself too thin. We are holding you in our thoughts and prayers!
Love
Bev.
@baldmike2004 - One thing about parents they are always looking out for what they think your best interests are weather they really are in your best interest or not. Parents (mine in particularly) can be very controlling and I am a little like my mom in the fact that even when she is 60 something now she tried her best to show her parents that she was still obeying them and doing as they would have wanted while having her own life far away living it the way she wanted hiding what was her true self in a way (my dad even still did this though not to the same extent with my grandparents since they were not his parents). They always want to show the best of themselves to their parents and I want to show the best but also be myself. Which includes all my faults at times. I don't think theres a way to be myself and to be what they want all at the same time and I'm coming to beleive that the struggle is a bit too much to handle. It's very stressful. I have been thinking very seriously about moving out this year. I think you've missed out a lot with your parents dying so young. Family is stressful but it's very rewarding too. And I wish you could have had a part of that longer in your life.
@C_L_O_G - It was a very long few days. But very rewarding I thank you for your thoughts and prayers.
@Sojourner_here - Thank you so much. I am recovering today. We drove down Friday morning had the wake. Then crashed at my Aunt and Uncle's House for the night. I started getting little sick that night. Again no sleep that night... Then went to the church where the ladies had made the entire family a luncheon. And with my family it was a big meal! We then had the services and the funeral. My grandmother is such a crazy wonderful lady. We had to laugh at her several times. Someone came up to her and asked her what happened to my grandpa and she said "he died." (it's funnier in the vocal telling than it is the written telling). Any other would have said the condition and etc. I think everyone was trying to be strong for her and hold her up but she didn't need any of that. The tissues went from one side of the pew to the other traveling down to her. My mother at the end seated beside my grandmother and saw her rubbing her eyes thinking she needed a tissue. My mom handing her the box and she said 'my eye itches i don't need a tissue!" tissues traveled back down the line again lol
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Dear Leigh Ann,
I always want to tell you to "just leave" (and maybe even have a few times, over the last six or eight years). You need to pull free from the nest at some point. (Or else you don't. I'm easy.) But I always cringe upon reading of your home life snippets.
My condolences. I lost one grandpa in elementary school, and the other one was dead before I was born. I always say I'm probably lucky that my parents died young in one sense, now it seems all my peers parents' are passing into the Universal existence.
My prayers are with you and I am sending positive energy your way.
Michael F. Nyiri, poet, philosopher, fool
My condolences. I know you hate the long drive at a time like this. (((hug))) I would hate it too.
I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts
((hugs)) and prayers... So sorry to hear of your loss.
I am so sorry! Please take care of yourself and don't spread yourself too thin. We are holding you in our thoughts and prayers!
Love
Bev.
@baldmike2004 - One thing about parents they are always looking out for what they think your best interests are weather they really are in your best interest or not. Parents (mine in particularly) can be very controlling and I am a little like my mom in the fact that even when she is 60 something now she tried her best to show her parents that she was still obeying them and doing as they would have wanted while having her own life far away living it the way she wanted hiding what was her true self in a way (my dad even still did this though not to the same extent with my grandparents since they were not his parents).
They always want to show the best of themselves to their parents and I want to show the best but also be myself. Which includes all my faults at times. I don't think theres a way to be myself and to be what they want all at the same time and I'm coming to beleive that the struggle is a bit too much to handle. It's very stressful.
I have been thinking very seriously about moving out this year.
I think you've missed out a lot with your parents dying so young. Family is stressful but it's very rewarding too. And I wish you could have had a part of that longer in your life.
@C_L_O_G - It was a very long few days. But very rewarding I thank you for your thoughts and prayers.
@godfatherofgreenbay - Thank you.
@endlesssummer128 - Thank you
@Sojourner_here - Thank you so much. I am recovering today. We drove down Friday morning had the wake. Then crashed at my Aunt and Uncle's House for the night. I started getting little sick that night. Again no sleep that night... Then went to the church where the ladies had made the entire family a luncheon. And with my family it was a big meal! We then had the services and the funeral.
tissues traveled back down the line again lol
My grandmother is such a crazy wonderful lady. We had to laugh at her several times. Someone came up to her and asked her what happened to my grandpa and she said "he died." (it's funnier in the vocal telling than it is the written telling). Any other would have said the condition and etc.
I think everyone was trying to be strong for her and hold her up but she didn't need any of that. The tissues went from one side of the pew to the other traveling down to her. My mother at the end seated beside my grandmother and saw her rubbing her eyes thinking she needed a tissue. My mom handing her the box and she said 'my eye itches i don't need a tissue!"
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